Psychological Support Resources

Resources for Emotional and Psychological Support

Resources for Emotional and Psychological Support

As members and ministers of North Shore Universal Church, we all rely on each other to uphold the values of our organization. This includes being available to give emotional and psychological support to those in need whenever appropriate. As you may understand, some people can and will reach out to church ministers for guidance. This could include the couple being married, or it could include anyone else. Weddings can bring out a lot of emotions and memories for a lot of people, so be conscious that people may reach out. You are, after all, the presiding minister.

A vitally important part of the NSUC mission is our emphasis on encouragement and positivity. A healthy, stable, and positive outlook is key to a well-managed life. Maintaining this mental focus is critical as we navigate the highs and lows of our respective paths. As members and ministers of NSUC, we depend on each other to provide the best light and reflection that we can bring to this world and our community. We all want to be the best person we can be for each other.

If anyone reaches out to you, please consider embracing them to your best capacity and share with them our church ministerial approach to overcoming difficulty in life. Below, we have prepared a brief reading that you can share with anyone who might reach out to you. Please feel free to deliver these thoughts on overcoming significant loss, pain, or other mental anguish as you see fit.

Readings for Emotional and Psychological Encouragement

If your life circumstances change suddenly, and your sense of security and normalcy is disrupted. Stay calm, remain steadfast, and know that you will carry forward. Slow down and do what you can to reinforce your stability. Avoid alcohol and drugs as none of this will help you. And please avoid adopting nervous mannerisms (like a restless leg or wringing your hands), as this will feed back into your own psychology and can aggravate anxiety. It is important to stabilize your perspective and regulate your emotions and energy. Maybe go for a walk or call a friend or family-member, and remember, your perspective matters a lot more than your circumstances.

However, if your circumstances do trouble you, understand that you are not merely the manager of these random circumstances that befall you. Your circumstances will always change, but your perspective on life can be the rock of stability to help you endure difficult periods. Always remember: you create life and have brought into this world amazing evidence of your talents. People love you. And no matter what: there is always more greatness for you to create. Indeed, oftentimes it is the people who have progressed the most through time and life who indeed have the most to offer the friends and family in their lives. Remember what you have to offer others in service.

When you hit a serious obstacle in life, and you need to make some important decisions, take it slow and easy. Don’t be hard on yourself; forgive yourself any indiscretions that contributed to the situation. Blame or anger will not help you move forward. Look for the good. Be positive and be grateful for this opportunity to improve yourself. Motivational coach Tony Robbins has identified a three-part criterion that can be used in pursuit of making our best decisions at these difficult moments.

The 3 Key Focus Points ...

What are you going to focus on? This is critical because focus is the key that unlocks the door whereupon we can confront our obstacles and chart a new and better path. Mental focus can actually determine our emotional feelings, psychology, and physiology. Any reflection on anything negative will start to sink your spirits. If you want to feel positive, then you need to focus on the positive things you’ve known in life.

Focus on the depth of love given to you from all of the people in your life, especially your family and other main players. These people have brought you love because they could see how worthy of this love you have always been. Focus on how this love makes you feel physically. Notice the warmth you feel and the smile on your face when you think of the people who love you. Be grateful.

A healthy outlook is a choice. Choose to be grateful. Studies have shown that gratitude improves self-esteem, enhances relationships, improves quality of sleep, and expands longevity. Gratitude is good medicine in difficult times, so make this choice. Again and again, make the choice to be grateful. If you become worried or fearful, recognize this and choose to pull your mind back into a state gratefulness. Make this choice every time, the same way you might keep a distracted puppy from going off track, with patience and good humor. Always come back to being grateful and reflect on the love you’ve known.

What does something mean? Context brings clarity, and clarity enables power. Don’t feed and enlarge your troubles by misunderstanding the contexts within which they occur. By hyper-fixating on our troubles, we can paralyze the very action we need to move past them. And while it is clearly necessary to “keep it all in perspective,” this can be a difficult thing to do during life’s downturns – if only because of emotional paralyzation and psychological disarray.

So call a friend or family member and have a verbal conversation. They will remind you of how far you’ve come and your personal fortitude that got you there. Keep everything in context. Loss happens inevitably in life. A lot of people lose important relationships, positions, money or other resources. Everyone loses friends and/or family. But we owe it to each other, especially our loved ones who have invested their time in us, to really keep all of life’s challenges – and miracles – in their full and proper context so we can move forward.

If no loved one is available to speak with you, then you need to focus on calming your mind by yourself. Racing thoughts will not help you, nor will despair or anger. You must actively set all of this aside. If necessary, speak positively to yourself aloud into a mirror, over and over again, hitting inflection points to really convince yourself of what you need to know at this time. Within your reassurance, count your blessings and remind yourself of your gratitude. Engage yourself with this positive focus and don’t allow racing thoughts to trouble your mind to exhaustion. Remind yourself that everything will work out fine, including any lessons for you to learn.

What are you going to do? Set goals that motivate you, that are self-rewarding, that make you happy somehow. Know what you want, know why you want it, and know what it takes to get there. Really spend some time exploring all of this. Talk this through with others and/or yourself (ie: break out the mirror again). If necessary, break big goals down into smaller, more specific goals. Keep your focus daily and hourly, writing things down if necessary. Stay busy and keep moving forward. Maintain gratefulness for all of the important things in your life.

Pay attention to what you’re getting on this new road and be sensitive to what is working (as well as what’s not working). If necessary, change your approach. Refine and change again if necessary. Continue to chart and re-chart your recovery. Communicate regularly with your friends and family, as your concern to be accountable will keep you on course. And Don’t Give Up! Failure, loss, and obstacles are all part of life. But you will overcome everything in your time.

Engaging Scriptures

Facing Danger, Persevere.
Then there is no blame.
Do not complain about this truth.
Enjoy whatever fortune you possess.
– Chinese Proverb
God tells his children, his chosen ones, not to be afraid, because he is with them.
Floods will not overwhelm them and fires will not consume them.
He will bring his sons and daughters from afar and they will be redeemed.
Although their transgressions have burdened him, he will blot those out for his own sake.
They are not to remember these former things for he is doing something new!
He has called them each by name.
They are precious in his eyes and he loves them!
– Book of Isiah 43; 1-2, 4, 7, 18-19, 24-25

Helpful Aphorisms

Have a mind open to everything and attached to nothing.
No one knows enough to be a pessimist.
If your choice is to be either right or kind, choose kindness.
Humility is the door to restoration.
Get blame out of your life.
There are no justified resentments.
Wisdom is avoiding all thoughts that weaken you.
Trade your expectations for appreciations.
Relax your certainties and embrace bewilderment.
Always remember gratefulness. Gratitude turns what you have into enough.
Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but the parent of all others.

Gratitude is the path to the best actualization of life.

Gratitude is the foundation of what Lao-tzu, founder of philosophical Taoism and author of the Tao Te Ching, called the “Four Cardinal Virtues.” A genuinely grateful person has multiple virtues that resound from this core identity. The four virtues on this best path for living are:

1) Reverence
2) Honesty
3) Kindness
4) Supportiveness

To be Grateful is not to be Attached

In addressing Tony Robbins’ three-part motivational criterion discussed above (Focus, Evaluation, and Action), psychologist and self-help pioneer Dr. Wayne Dyer has often commented on the need for a fourth point that should be included at the end: Detachment from the result.

Throughout our lives there is tremendous change happening on a daily basis. In order to ground ourselves amidst this change and uncertainty, we make assumptions about who we are, what we need in terms of finances or resources, our relations to others, etc. We accumulate possessions, obsess over money, chase status, and define ourselves by these transitory pursuits. We can persuade ourselves to rely on these slight ideas if only to gain a sense of self and place in an otherwise difficult and uncompromising world.

Our insecurities confuse us into thinking that our vanities are really necessary, so we attach ourselves to these shifting ideas that we somehow think will hold us in place. But within these conceits, we lose scope and latch onto shadows whose original forms we do not see or understand. The very things that we imagined would save and define us can quickly turn against us or disappear altogether. And then we focus inordinately on the perceived loss and we convince ourselves that we have nothing.

Our insistence on these attachments keep us from connection and happiness. The paradox here is that in our effort to become ourselves, we actually create separation from others.

If we evaluate ourselves by what others do not have, the fundamental effect is to push them away and close future doors through these unreasonable, harmful comparisons. And when we lose the objects of our vanities, our hearts break, and we cry out in despair because we think life has taken from us unfairly. In our unhappiness, we can become toxic. We can blame others when all along the wrongness was in us.

A common misconception about happiness is that if you have all the things you want, and you attain all the goals you desire, then you will become happy and feel loved. However, the reality is just the opposite: if you start first from a place of happiness and love, you are much more likely to attain your goals and attract abundance, and people will appreciate you.

To break your attachments, begin by recognizing your reliance for self-definition on any unreasonable conceits or separatist vanities. Replacing these well-worn falsehoods with actual truth may bring feelings of dejection and isolation – but have faith – most new-beginnings involve an emotional churn. This does not mean that you will lose your drive to perform and accomplish great things in life. Instead, it signifies that your drive will be realigned with a life based on happiness, togetherness, existential reality and feeling purposeful.

As we detach from material possessions, transitory positioning and temporary outcomes, we become open to the most enduring truths of life: love, gratitude, respect, faithfulness, conscientiousness, compassion, and service.

Check Out Tony Robbins ...

… view his discussion on Mastering Your Emotions.

Or, Check Out His Discussion On ...

… Overcoming Depression, Anxiety, and Fear.

Unitarianism (from Latin unitas “unity, oneness”, from unus “one”) is a Christian theological movement named for its belief that the God in Christianity is one person, as opposed to the Trinity (tri- from Latin tres “three”) which in many other branches of Christianity defines God as three persons in one being: the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.[1] Unitarian Christians, therefore, believe that Jesus was inspired by God in his moral teachings, and he is a savior,[2][3] but he was not a deity or God incarnate. Unitarianism does not constitute one single Christian denomination, but rather refers to a collection of both extant and extinct Christian groups, whether historically related to each other or not, which share a common theological concept of the oneness nature of God.

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