Psychological Support Resources

If your life circumstances change suddenly, and your sense of security and normalcy is disrupted. Stay calm, remain steadfast, and know that you will carry forward. Slow down and do what you can to reinforce your stability. Avoid alcohol and drugs as none of this will help you. And please avoid adopting nervous mannerisms (like a restless leg or wringing your hands), as this will feed back into your own psychology and can aggravate anxiety. It is important to stabilize your perspective and regulate your emotions and energy. Maybe go for a walk or call a friend or family-member, and remember, your perspective matters a lot more than your circumstances.

However, if your circumstances do trouble you, understand that you are not merely the manager of these random circumstances that befall you. Your circumstances will always change, but your perspective on life can be the rock of stability to help you endure difficult periods. Always remember: you create life and have brought into this world amazing evidence of your talents. People love you. And no matter what: there is always more greatness for you to create. Indeed, oftentimes it is the people who have progressed the most through time and life who indeed have the most to offer the friends and family in their lives. Remember what you have to offer others in service.

When you hit a serious obstacle in life, and you need to make some important decisions, take it slow and easy. Don’t be hard on yourself; forgive yourself any indiscretions that contributed to the situation. Blame or anger will not help you move forward. Look for the good. Be positive and be grateful for this opportunity to improve yourself. Motivational coach Tony Robbins has identified a three-part criterion that can be used in pursuit of making our best decisions at these difficult moments.

Throughout our lives there is tremendous change happening on a daily basis. In order to ground ourselves amidst this change and uncertainty, we make assumptions about who we are, what we need in terms of finances or resources, our relations to others, etc. We accumulate possessions, obsess over money, chase status, and define ourselves by these transitory pursuits. We can persuade ourselves to rely on these slight ideas if only to gain a sense of self and place in an otherwise difficult and uncompromising world.

Our insecurities confuse us into thinking that our vanities are really necessary, so we attach ourselves to these shifting ideas that we somehow think will hold us in place. But within these conceits, we lose scope and latch onto shadows whose original forms we do not see or understand. The very things that we imagined would save and define us can quickly turn against us or disappear altogether. And then we focus inordinately on the perceived loss and we convince ourselves that we have nothing.

Our insistence on these attachments keep us from connection and happiness. The paradox here is that in our effort to become ourselves, we actually create separation from others.